The Last 28 Years

Wowzers. I'm nearly thirty. 28 today in fact.

Back in October I posted about the things I learned in 2017 , a year where I grew a lot as a person. As it was one of my most popular posts of last year, I thought i'd expand it to the last 28 years I've been lucky enough to be alive! Think of these more as pep talks for my younger self if I could go back...

In no particular order...

- You will always make mistakes. I make them daily. What matters is how you bounce back. In fact, what matters IS that you bounce back. I've been engaged twice, fucked up my academic prospects by trying to play the class clown, dropped out of University, upset people without realising it, and pushed away those that love me the most. But i'm still here, because for every fuck up, i've tried to fix things, or pushed on regardless.

The only real mistake is the one from which we learn nothing.

- You'll always lose touch with people. It happens. Its not anyone's fault, people grow apart. My school friends went to Uni and we fell out of touch - some of them I connect with on Facebook, some I don't. But I wish them all the positive vibes in the world, even though I may never see some of them again!

- Friends can come into your life at any time - I met a lot of mine in the last 5 years.

- Do what you love. I've been making music for 18 years in some capacity, and I enjoy it - so why stop now?

- I wish I didn't eat so much junk food in my late teens to early 20s. Would've saved me a lot of a) confidence and b) a lot of fat jokes from well-meaning friends.

- Never forget how lucky you are, even on days where you can't see that.

- Don't feel jealous. If someone is doing something that you wish was you, you didn't work hard enough for it in the first place. If you didn't have the chance to do what they're doing, earn that chance.

- There is no possible excuse for sacrificing your own happiness to keep toxic people in your life. People don't change, and its wrong to want them to.

- Don't try to be anyone else. Be you, everyone else is taken. I spent so long in life wishing I looked like X, sounded like Y, etc etc. You're beautifully unique, never lose sight of that. I've always been a bit different - to other kids, to my sister, to everyone. I always saw that as me doing something wrong when I should've been embracing my differences as though they are strengths and not weaknesses.

- You can never be too honest. Tell people how you feel, whether that's positive or negative. Even after a fight, remind your loved one that you love them. Don't go to bed without that.

- Be brave. If you see something awry and you choose not to act, you are complicit. Batman taught me that if you have the means to help someone, you should do so.

- If in the first few months of a relationship even THEIR friends and family are saying she's a bit psycho - LEAVE IT!

I wish I could say with age came wisdom, but this was simply a post comprised of word vomit of incomplete thoughts i've had during a period of recent reflection! Thanks for reading!